Stop Seeking Approval

Seeking an outside perspective occasionally is helpful but a constant need for approval is harmful in many ways. Leading you to not achieve your goals or reach your potential.

The benefits of “letting go” from what other people think can have a significant impact on your personal and professional life. Here are a few reasons to worry less about what other people think of you or your work.

Seeking permission and waiting for approval slows you down.

Every moment you spend searching for approval or trying to gain permission is a moment you are not working, building, and completing the work you want to do. It’s holding you back from your ambitions, goals, and desire to make an impact.

Your self-worth needs to be tied to something more stable.

You can’t count on the opinions of others to make you happy. People’s beliefs, likes, and dislikes change frequently. Humans are emotional and to measure your ideas by another person’s opinion is to tie yourself to the randomness of how someone may be feeling when you ask for their perspective.

You are looking for self-acceptance.

The reason we want approval is to confirm that we are on the right path, doing the right thing, and acting the right way. But only you can convince yourself of that. Empty approval from your boss, clients, friends, or parents won’t lead to the peace of mind you’re looking for.

People have different goals.

Be careful of the opinions of people who have significantly different desires than you do. Also, keep in mind, what you are looking to achieve may be very different from the people whom you are seeking an opinion from. 

The people we respect and admire aren’t approval seekers.

Think of someone you admire. Why are you attracted to them? Likely, it’s because they’re presenting something that is true to themselves. They didn’t get that way by appeasing everyone they met.

It’s freeing.

When you let go of the compulsion to seek approval from others you will be free to do your best work without worrying what other people will think of it.


Matt Eatt